Definitions

The other day as oh wait this is going to be a complete brain dump and I’m posting from my phone grammatical errors will be a plenty. Please cringe quietly or just skip completely. I’m sure I can write another post about my lack of grammar another time.
Okay so the other day I was yelling to my husband not at him to him. I was outside and he was inside just getting ready to come outside. I was reminding him to text his parents about next Sunday. You see my husband plays in the bell choir at our church. Next Sunday is the next time he will play and his mother had expressed an interest in going. I was excited about this possibility because my husband was also going to be recognized for all the time he has put in with the youth and we thought he was going to be a Deacon that day. We have finally found a church we love and feel welcome I wanted his parents to see this.
It was at this moment I was hit by a brick (figuratively) “how do we define success?” Is  success only defined by the amount of money we make and job we hold? Can’t success be defined as the type of person we are?  We both are blue collar workers while his siblings are not. Does this define success?  My brain was non stop at this moment. Maybe I have been thinking about success all the wrong way. Does my husband have to be the best bell player in order for him to be successful? Does he have to be the best Deacon? Certainly not but where did I come up with the idea that you have to be “SUPER...” in order to be successful? Can you be successful and average at the same time?
Even more confusing is the career I have chosen; as a special ed para I celebrate the smallest of victories because they were successful! Did they score a goal in gym? No but their foot connected with the ball and that never happened before. Did they finish the whole worksheet? No they finished half but they are understanding the concept? Or oh my gosh they were just asked to stop talking but that means he is talking and making friends.
So as my husband finally met me at the car I had come to realize success is obviously defined differently for people and about people. Now the question is what definition do we listen to ours or theirs?